Everything Happens for a Reason

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why me”?

I used to—when life didn’t go as planned.

When this happens, we can get angry, frustrated, and bitter—or we can take a different approach.

We can choose to believe that there is a greater plan for us. That maybe, this event didn’t happen to us but for us.

I remember when my husband and I knew that we were ready to have children. We had focused a lot on our careers in our early marriage, but the time had come. We were happily married, financially secure, and had a ton of love to give. I was healthy, fit, and ready. However, life doesn’t always go according to our plans or follow our timeline.

I found myself struggling with infertility—

hundreds of doctor appointments, needles, hormones, you name it. After several failed attempts and two losses, I found myself asking, why me? (Okay   ...maybe it was less asking and more screaming.)

When my job—the job that I had worked so hard at for ten years—was suddenly eliminated—I was devastated.

Blindsided, I couldn’t figure out why this had happened to me or what to do next.  

But I believe that life happens for us not to us.

Losing my job, while devastating at the time, allowed me to stay home with our son. I was home to witness every first for all three of our boys. It also led me to network marketing, something I never would have considered if my situation had been different.

When I was young, I thought you had to get a “real” job, and work 9 to 5 for the rest of your life. At the time my job was eliminated, I thought it was one of the worst things that could have happened to me. I now realize that it happened FOR me. It led me to a business that makes me four times my past income, in one-fourth of the time.

Meanwhile, I always get to put my family first.

I do believe that everything happens for a reason.

Often times we don’t know that reason until later.  

I couldn’t understand why I had to go through so much struggle to have a baby.  It was so hard not to feel bitter and angry when going through that.

But, I look back now and know that I had to go through all of that so that I could have these three perfect and amazing boys.

They were worth waiting for, and I would go through it all a thousand times over to have them again.  

If you’re struggling through a hard time and asking yourself why me, know that it will get better.

Eventually, you will find your way through this. And by that time, you may even have learned something valuable from the experience of struggle.

Check out my Blog post on Dreaming Big here.